When you strip away the front that a person puts up to protect themselves, you’re left with the experiences and moments that made them who they are. This is the place you need to visit to truly get to know someone and be able to relate their life with yours. A lot of the moments that help shape a person could of began with shame. People are scared of this deep, dark place inside of them because they’re nervous they will be the only ones. In Anne Hallward’s Ted talk How telling our silenced stories can change the world, she claims that we don’t like to let people in on that part of our life because, “they all have an emotional charge”(1:30). I completely agree with this. We are sometimes afraid to share our emotional stories with other because not only does it revisit the experience for you, but you are nervous what the other people will say or think of you. Not only could I relate this to me personally, but every person could relate to the moment for that they face when opening up to a new person, trying to share who they are and where they have been.
No one wants to be looked down upon, so they keep their emotions to themselves, and that is not at all healthy. I’ve always been told that in order to free myself from my demons, I need to talk to someone; that when I do my demons will be set free and I won’t be tied down anymore. I found out that this is true after finally working up the courage to do so; but most people never find the courage to speak up and find someone to talk to, whether that be a professional or a good friend. By opening up to one another, we’ll find that we all have things deep in the closet that we hoped never to see again and fear of judgement will never have to be an issue again. If we all say what we need to, the world can change and we can finally be honest people.
